What's wrong with me?

you could try talking to her, let her know that she does things that upset you. i know a lot of parents think it's just a teen thing to get mad, but it really isn't fair when the child feels sincerely upset by something their parents do and they ignore it just because "it's a phase". maybe she doesn't realize she's upsetting you so much. you can talk to a counselor if you'd like, or a friend, you can even talk to me if you want to. just let me know and i can get you my e-mail if you'd like.